Monday, 30 July 2012

Date Day & Something A Little More Serious...

This past week we recreated one of our very first dates as a couple that first happened four years ago. Time has flown by, it really has. It was perfect then and it was even more perfect this time around. The Derbyshire Dales are so gorgeous and I will never tire of going for a country drive. These drives are even better if they result in picking up pudding from Bakewell. We were just getting to know each other four years ago, the 200 mile distance felt like such a hindrance at first, but after hours spent on Skype, we were instantly inseperable. Four years later I still get those butterflies when he reaches out to clasp my hand with his. ♥

I am so happy.

xoxo

P.S. Okay, so this is something I will address once and only once, it has simply reached the point where, unfortunately, it needs to be said. Over the past two years that I have been blogging here I have been very lucky not to receive a large amount of nasty comments. Now when I say nasty comments I am not talking about comments which contain differing opinions to my own, that's something different altogether, that's normal & a healthy thing to have happen because not everyone is the same and that's what makes society, culture and life in general so wonderfully diverse and colourful. I'm simply talking about nasty hate filled comments that serve no purpose at all other than to waste the time of the writer who sadly doesn't appear to have anything more constructive to do with their time. 

These sorts of comments have increased a little recently and so far as I can tell they're all written by the same person, they all have a similar tone, use of punctuation and the words chosen are very consistent. I also know exactly who this person is and all that I can say about that is, I'm very disappointed. I thought better of you. If you dislike me that much; you think my life is boring, my paragraphs are too long, you even hate the little hearts I put on my instagram pictures, then I strongly suggest you don't follow my twitter account, my instagram or my blog anymore. It's not healthy! I'm completely aware that not everyone is going to like me, that's just part of life & I don't expect every comment to shower me with compliments, but this is going too far the other way. 

Every hate filled comment simply gets deleted and I will not give it a second thought. I'm very lucky that I'm that little bit older now and I'm lucky that over the last couple of years I've grown into generally quite a secure person with a life filled with smiles, happiness and wonderful things to look forward to. I can only hope that the person who is leaving me such nasty comments isn't doing it to other girls too, perhaps younger girls or girls that aren't quite as content and confident with every aspect of their lives just yet. Nasty words can cut deeper than you could ever imagine when you're not in the best of places in life. You have no idea about everything going on in someone's life, they could be having a completely terrible time of it and are trying their very best to put a brave face on and concentrate on the positives until some twonk comes along and ruins everything. I know because I've been there and it was the worst time of my life. Don't be that twonk. 

So before leaving a hurtful, nasty and venomous comment perhaps just take a moment to consider the consequences of your actions, consider clicking that X in the corner of the screen and concentrating on making yourself happy that day instead of trying to ruin someone elses.

If you have received any horrible comments, please please please don't take the words to heart. Delete it, shake it off & don't ever give it a second thought. You're better than that.

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  1. Incredibly well said - we can't all get on, the blogging world isn't a utopia - but there is no excuse for abusing a person just for the sake of being nasty. What a sad state of affairs!! Hateful comments say more about the person commenting than they ever will about the subject of the hate! If you have nothing but horrible, mean things to say, don't bother saying anything!

    Jem xXx

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    1. Thank you lovely! Exactly, it takes nothing to click the x on a webpage and forget about it, but it takes so much more effort to leave a nasty comment, I will never understand it! xo

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  2. Really sorry to hear you're getting mean comments - I love your blog!

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    xxx

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  3. so sorry to hear that you are getting nasty comments Jennie. There is always one person out there who is willing to drag others down. You are a lovely person with a wonderful blog and like you said dont ever let this person get the better of you xx

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    1. Thank you lovely! You're right, there is always one who wants to throw negativeness around. xoxo

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  4. Aww Jennie how I wished you didn't have to write this post. That stupid troll doesn't deserve any of your time but I understand that you needed to share your thoughts on the matter. In the months I've been beauty blogging I'm fortunate to not have received a single horrible comment but for sure one day it'll probably arrive and when that day comes I'll remember your advice of just shaking it off and not take it to heart.

    I love your blog and really enjoy reading it especially when it's about beauty products. Keep blogging because your followers aka me appreciate everything about you. People sometimes don't realise how much time and effort goes into a post.They don't know how much courage is needed to put ourselves out there. We certainly don't do it to attract haters.

    Jennie just remember this quote'' Behind every successful person lies a pack of haters.'' I live by it. Have a nice day Jennie and smile away your worries. :)

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    1. I honestly hope that you never receive any horrible comments, you deserve super nice ones because you're lovely! Thank you for the quote, it's definitely one to remember all the time! xoxo

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  5. for every one hater, there's a thousand more people in love with you and your blog! i think it's jealousy- of course i think, wow i wish i had her hair or god what a great life they have, but sometimes you just have to shake it off and stop yourself from getting eaten up by it. i really hope it stops, and well done you for posting this and facing it! we can all learn something from people like you x

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    1. Aww thank you lovely, I really appreciate such kind words! <3 xoxo

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  6. I really love your photograph!!!
    3lin

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  7. oh Jennie, so sorry you have been receiving unpleasant and unnecessary comments. Keep your chin up honey. x

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    1. Thank you beautiful, I will do! xo

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  8. That's so awful that you're getting nasty comments, as since I've started reading your blog it's become a favourite and I always love reading your posts. This one is no exception - the first part made me smile, it's lovely you've found someone who makes you happy :) X

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    1. Thank you so much, that really does mean the world! xo

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  9. Such a sweet post, and gorgeous photographs!

    But what a shame someone has been writing nasty comments :( You have the right outlook on it though - you are much better than them, so keep writing and doing what you do and love. I bet the person is only jealous. xx

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  10. Lovely photos! Thats such a shame, well done for not letting it affect you :)From what I can tell from your blog & videos you seem such a lovely person, I don't know why someone could dislike you! x

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  11. Ahh some people just have fuck all better to do than be rude to people who are better than them. You are stardust and nothing this loser can say to you will change that :) xxx

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    1. Aww thank you SO much! Ahh I know, you would think they could find something better to do with their time to be honest! xo

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  12. Very well said and SCREW THEM! You obviously deal with it very well and they don't deserve anyones time of day.:)

    On another note, congratulations on your 4 years together! Im coming up to the 3 year anniversary with my boyfriend. Its truly special having someone to share everything with :)

    Makeup for Biochemists

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  13. 4 years = congrats!

    Having been on the receiving end of some nasty comments regarding my weight and my personality (good to know thart someone who reads my blog totally knows my entire personality enough to tell me what it is) I know exactly how disgusting it is, and similarly to yourself I think they've all come from the same person. You seem to have managed to let it fall off you and I think that's amazing because you're a beautiful girl, and you seem lovely. I love that you've addressed this in such a strong way, and I'm full of admiration for you.

    Also, your paragrahs are not too long. On the contrary, it's nice to read a blog where there are more words than top - topshop, skirt - zara, shoes - office, beneath a post!

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    1. Definitely ignore all nasty comments, they have no idea what they're talking about because you're lovely!

      Aww thank you! I've always been a little bit rambly in my posts, I like using this space as a little online diary so I'm not sure why they've started hating the way I write all of a sudden! Silly people hehe!

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  14. Gorgeous photos, looks to have been a lovely date :)

    Hate is boring and frankly a massive waste of time and energy. It's a shame you had to write the post, but the fact that you wrote it with such dignity and so articulately just proves how much bigger you are than the hater. Well done on being such a poised, well-rounded young lady. Cx

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    1. Aww thank you so much! <3 xoxo

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  15. I would like to say and think those people that leave such comments are jealous but in all truth I think they somehow get a kick out of it. Which is a shame that they have to do such thing to get entertainment and make themselves happy. They are obviously the ones with the problem, not you. And well done you on speaking out too!

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    1. I agree, I think they do and it's such a shame! xo

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  16. Well said, don't even bother with them they are not worth it.

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  17. I'm sorry to hear that Jennie but so much respect for you for not letting it get you down! Congratulations on 4 years!! That's amazing - here's hoping for many more happy years :)

    xxxx

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  18. Very well said. It's horrible that you've been getting nasty comments, I don't understand what goes through people's heads when they decide to write nasty things, it's baffling. x
    Sirens and Bells

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    1. Ahh I know, I don't understand what they get from it, it's just a huge waste of time and energy! xo

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  19. It's disgusting that you're having to deal with this. You're much stronger than I would be! It must be awful.

    Your blog is lovely and you seem like a genuine, sweet person, so I'm not sure why anyone would want to hurt your feelings like this.

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  20. Great post and well said! I've been lucky enough not to receive any nasty comments and hopefully won't have to. But people that go out of their way to make somebody feel bad, and attack them aren't worth any time, like you say. I hope the person leaving nasty comment to you, realizes this and how they are affecting other people's lives.
    Daniella x

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    1. I really hope you will never have to either, it's not a nice thing to have happen but it's always important to remember that these people are just being super silly and wasteful of their own time! xo

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  21. They literally have nothing better to do. How sad is that?! It's cliche but it's true.
    Jennie your blog is one of my all time favourites. I've never commented before but I remember in my last year of uni when I really wanted to blog and I thought yours was so damn good. My inspiration if you will :)

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    1. Aww thank you so much, that really means the world! xo

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  22. This made me smile, both because of how happy I am for you about your anniversary (congratulations!) and the amazing time you had (the butterflies! it warms my heart!) but also because of the mature and constructive way you've handled the 'troll'. As many have said, it only speaks about the sad life of the person behind them, not about you and I'm so glad you can move forward from it and shake it off as it would make me very sad to see them wear you down - I adore your blog, and you! X

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    1. Thank you beautiful! It absolutely does, I'm not letting it get to me at all. If they're not brave enough to say things to me without hiding behind the anon function then they don't deserve a second of my time! xo

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  23. I know we've chatted on twitter about how a similar think has happened to me. Honestly this sad individual stalks me on every possible platform then sends awful messages. I've been the bigger person and never responded, you're completely right. x

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    1. I totally remember and I'm so happy that you've never responded, it's not worth a second thought from you, this person is beyond sad! xo

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  24. Good on you for not letting this person get you down. You're stronger than they will ever be. Congrats on your anniversary, I love your blog :)
    Lucy x

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  25. I'm glad you can shake it off. People are sometimes very rude, and if they have something different to your opinions, they can say it nicely. Not that they have to insult others and put you down.

    i totally agree with you and I like your attitude!!

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  26. Your photo's are lovely, it sounds like you had a really nice day. Well said in regards to the nasty comments, some people can shake it off but with others in can really hurt them. People need to think before they type. xxx

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    1. They really do! And thank you so much! xoxo

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  27. Well said :) Your outlook on life is so inspirational, and your strength of mind outweighs any nasty comments. They are little trolls who are jealous - end of. Keep smiling! x

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  28. Lovely polaroids! And I hope those comments have stopped.

    www.polaroidsandpuds.blogspot.co.uk

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