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Saturday, 27 April 2013

"You've Changed!"

"You've changed!" Two words that I have been hearing a lot recently both to me, about me and about other people. It's something that almost seems to have gained negative connotations, especially on the Internet, but honestly, change is more often than not a positive thing, and if it's not, I've found that there are always positive elements that can be taken from it. Maybe you learn something new about yourself, another person or situation. Change isn't always easy and sometimes it can be hard to accept and adjust to something new but it's unavoidable and it's how things stay fresh and exciting.

About six months ago I remember getting a comment telling me that I'd changed and initially I felt a bit taken aback, but after thinking about it I thought, well of course I have! As we grow it's natural to start to like different things, for priorities to change as you learn new things about yourself, where you're heading in life and your aspirations. It's part of life. I am so different in many ways to who I was three years ago when I first started blogging, but ultimately I'm still me. I'm Jennie, I'm still shy, I'm still trying to find my way in life, I'm still a little bit chubby. There are things about me that I'm pretty sure will always stay the same, but I hope the things that are different are positive changes.
I've made a mental note to grow my hair out again, long layers are the best, perhaps not such an extreme side parting though ;) Also lose 14 lbs - work in progress!

Three years ago I was super lonely in my 'in real life' life, I'd just found YouTube and I was watching all these beautiful beauty gurus with incredible make up collections and I wanted that too. I wanted the fancy dressing table, the drawers of make up, and the lifestyle that these girls had; they seemed so confident and secure with millions of friends. Now I'm a little older I can appreciate that what one portrays isn't always, and probably shouldn't be, a complete representation of their life, but that's a whole other post entirely. I started a blog talking about make up and I loved it for a really long time. Three years on and now I almost feel like I can't keep up. I don't have the disposable income to buy new things all the time and there are lovely ladies doing a better job than I could ever hope to; Lipglossiping, The Beauty Milk & Gh0stparties to name just a few of my favourites. Don't get me wrong, I still love make up, skin care and clothes, I love talking about them and that will never ever stop, but now there are different things that I like to talk about too. That doesn't make me better or worse than anyone else, I'm just more content than I ever have been at any other point in my life before and from that I feel more confident in sharing more. In the last three years I moved for the first time in my life, I own a home and I'm about to set up my own photography business that I'm crossing my fingers will work out. My life before was a little empty and now, mostly thanks to blogging, it's full of new and exciting things.

Over recent months I've been writing more personal posts because I wanted to. For the longest time I was writing things because I thought that's what people wanted to read and not because I wanted to write them. That was all wrong and from that all I was left with was a a bunch of forced posts that weren't interesting, helpful or fun to read. I needed to change things up and started to write about things in my life, things I wanted to remember, almost like an online diary. And I loved it, so I carried on. Sometimes I don't want to write about lipstick and sometimes I do, so now sometimes I do write about lipstick and sometimes I write about something completely different. Of course I know that not everyone wants to know about my life and I totally understand if you want to unsubscribe completely because not every update is going to be about beauty. That's okay because I never want you to feel obliged to read what I'm writing because you're not! It's been incredible to have you come along on this journey with me so far and I'd love you to stay, but you don't have to.

As I've grown up I've learned that you don't need to fit into a certain category if you don't want to and when I finally realised that I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. You can want to study science and art, you can listen to Rihanna and Nirvana and you can wear a pretty dress one day and ripped jeans & a band tee the next. You can want to be a ballerina and a doctor, you can like wild nights out and cosy nights in and you can like cats and dogs. Those were terrible examples, but you get my point, right? You can be anyone you want to be and you can change your mind as many times as you want!

There will always be those people in your life that would prefer you to do this or that, but I think the most important thing to think about is what you want to do. If you're not happy, then your heart won't be in it and you can get trapped in an endless cycle of feeling like there's something missing. If there's something you want to change in your life, do it! Finding the courage & motivation to change is half the battle so if you have that, you're already half way there. If you want to start a blog, do it, write about what you want to write about and don't listen if anyone says mean things. If your parents want you to be a lawyer but you want to be a fashion designer, show them some of your work and how talented and passionate you are about it. If you don't want to go to University, make real plans to do something else instead and work really hard. There's no secret to being successful, you just have to work really hard at something you love and hope that Lady Luck is smiling down on you. Always always always do what makes you happy, because life is far too short not to follow your dreams.

Change isn't always a bad thing. It's important to grow and to learn new things. Although it can be intimidating, embrace it because bigger and brighter things may come through it. 

xoxo

102 comments:

  1. You're just as sweet as ever Jennie <3 xxx

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  2. This is a brilliant post Jennie :) Makes change seem so much less scary.

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  3. I think change is a good thing, most of the time! And especially in your case, if I read it like this you feel so much more comfortable with yourself right now. Not even to mention how much I love this post, you're great with words and describing how you feel, which is great. I love your blog the way it is and want to wish you a lot of luck with setting up your own business! Great post.

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  4. I love this post, so incredibly much. :)

    I can completely relate. I struggled with the whole 'being one particular thing' idea when I was younger, but now at 22 I've also realised the same things you have. You can be anyone you want and like whatever you choose to!

    I've also changed a lot of things in my life, including cutting out those who look down on me for not living my life the same way they do. I'm actually really happy now. :)

    You're a beautiful person, inside and out, and I for one won't be unfollowing you! :)

    xoxo

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    1. Yay, I'm so glad to hear that you're happy! Thank you so much for sharing! <3 <3 xo

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  5. Ah this is a brilliant post, I'm glad you wrote it! I have been seeing a lot of people complain about other people in the beauty community "changing', but like you said - over the years people do change. In fact I think it would be unhealthy if people didn't change! I'm not the same person I was 4 years ago when I first started my blog and I'm actually glad about that! xxx

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    1. I completely agree! It's completely normal to change, I don't think many people stay the same between the ages of 17 and 24. Priorities change and although not everyone will like those changes, you have to do what's best for you! <3

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  6. This is a beautiful post full of wise words, Jennie.
    I wish more people could see change as a positive thing; without change, things would always stay the same, and I can't imagine anything more boring!!
    Good luck with your photography business :)

    Jesss xo

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  7. I love this post Jennie. Change is a beautiful thing, I spent years not embracing the change in my life and being miserable. I've recently made a massive change and I couldn't be happier.

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    1. That's so lovely to hear, I'm glad you're feeling happier now! <3 <3

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  8. I've loved your personal posts lately. Its why I check back often, and change is a great thing keep it up :) Hanna

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  9. Just discovered your blog and started subscribing! Your posts are lovely, and your blog is so cute! I have a lot to learn from you! Looking forward to more posts :) xox
    Rachel

    rachelsloves.blogspot.ca

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  10. You are a wise young lady, Jennie :)
    xx

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  11. This is a great post and I think a lot of people feel this way. I'm one of those people who hates change, but if I looked at pictures of myself five years ago I actually wore pink leopard print footless tights (EWWWWWWWW) so thank god I've changed in that respect!!!!!!! You looked lovely four years ago and you look lovely now, it's all apart of growing up, you just have to do what makes you happy. I think your personal posts are great and it adds a nice touch to your blog, it's more about who you are rather than the latest must have beauty product. I know I prefer blogs with a personal touch. Keep at it, I think you're lovely. :)

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    1. Haha I think we've all made some terrible fashion choices in the past! <3

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  12. I completely agree, be who you want to be and stop worrying about what other people think! Blogging is supposed to be fun and therefore it should be about whatever you want it to be about. :)

    Tara
    www.thestylerawr.com
    xoxo

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  13. I loved this post. Change happens no matter what, some people can accept that and others can't but it's going to happen as you grow older and find yourself in new situations. I'm a firm believer in blogging what ever you want to blog I much prefer lifestyle post but you should write about what ever you want (I'll always read it anyway so you've got one contstant reader right here!). Good luck with the photography business too xx

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  14. This is such a great post! <3 I think that people who can't seem to understand that all people change, and slam you for it, are the ones that wish they were brave enough to do the same thing themselves. I've changed a lot in the past few years, and I only see that as for the better - I'm becoming more and more myself for each day that passes by in a lot of ways. I've learned from my mistakes, and I feel a lot more confident with myself now, at 24, than at say 19. The person you turn into must be the person you're meant to be at this given point, so to speak!

    Taking the wrong turns and ending up in bad situations that hurt you obviously isn't a good change, but in general I do see change as something that signifies life and the things that we are here to learn (which sounded very, ehm, religious, but I hope my point comes across somewhat correctly!). Change, especially when we are young, is kind of essential, and I can't think of anything more sad than not daring to try out new things just because you're afraid, or scared of people who might think less of you because of it.


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    1. Absolutely! Change is so natural and we all definitely learn from our mistakes! xo

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  15. Such a lovely post!
    I can relate completely, especially as I like Rihanna + Nirvana.. ;)
    Joking aside, I think everybody changes its a part of life, the best thing to do is embrace the change!
    :)
    x

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  16. What an amazing post Jennie. I've heard 'you've changed' so many times too, actually just yesterday someone said that to me. I think sometimes it's more or less because they don't really know you in the first place, so once they get to know you, they think you're different, but really you were the same along.

    xo aly

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  17. beautiful post!change can be a scary but positive experience. But just one thing,you are definitely not chubby. You have a beautiful figure lovely xx

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  18. This was such an inspiring post :)
    I want to write personal posts sometimes, but then think.. who cares? I don't have lots of followers so I'd feel like I'm writing to myself.. But then again that's what a diary is!

    Alice ♥ alicekatex.blogspot.com

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    1. I think you just have to write about what you want to, for you and not for anyone else <3

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  19. I have adored reading your blog since the day I found it, and I really love the way it has evolved. I really enjoy reading your lifestyle posts as they are always very thought provoking and you always make some very important points. Sometimes they are things I need to hear, and other times it's as if you read my mind.
    You're completely right, I think people tend to put themselves under too much pressure to conform, particularly in the blogging world - ironic really, as personally I think the best blogs are those which don't, and which have something special and unique.
    Happy to hear that you're feeling so content at the moment, best of luck with your photography business.
    Mel xx

    melswallofmirrors.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. I completely agree, my favourite blogs are always the ones that are super unique, they do their own thing and have fun! xo

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  20. aw, this post is amazing. i love it :). it's so inspiring. i hate people change... everytime it happens to me it makes me sad.

    http://coeursdefoxes.blogspot.com/

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  21. I feel like i'm going throught exactly the same at minute.
    Moving to university changes you as a person, and I'm developing more confidence and standing up for myself more.
    People don't like that.

    Your so lovely,
    I love your blog.
    This is a beautiful post

    Kelly || DayDreamsDaisyChains.com

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  22. Great post as usual. Change is good, especially when you feel like you've made progress. And nothing wrong with rihanna and nirvana on same playlist!

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  23. I love this, really inspiring & refreshing to read :)
    xxx

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  24. You know this is kind of a timely post for me. I'm in the midst of a large change in my life, and while I know change is good, it is also difficult to have to do.

    Heidi’s Wanderings

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    1. It is difficult, but it'll be worth it in the end <3

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  25. I loved this. It epitomized how I'm feeling a little, I have all this exam stress and pressure and I've got to the point where I've realised I need to be doing it for me and that the stress is worth it to get where I want x

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    1. Always do things because they're what you want <3

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  26. Good for you girl, it's definitely part of growing up. From 18 - 24 I changed more than my whole teens. Bravo on the home too and best of luck with the photography business! xx

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  27. what an inspirational post, you're right change is inevitable and honestly, what would we be if we always stayed exactly as we are?

    http://londonsdarling.blogspot.com

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    1. I don't think we'd ever get anywhere in life! xo

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  28. I'm so glad you wrote this Jennie, I've been feeling a bit down lately cos my friends from back home I haven't seen for a few months. But of course we can't drop everything to see each other anymore because we all have more important priorities. Thank you for reminding me to do what I want and not feel pressurized by what everyone wants me to do.

    http://golddustk.blogspot.co.uk/

    xx

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    1. Aww I'm glad I could help even just a little <3

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  29. I think that the one thing that hasn't changed about you, which is a good thing, is your ability to write incredibly well and with a purpose. This post is brilliant, of course you're not going to be the same person you were as a teenager - heck, I'm nearly 19 and I feel very different in myself to how I did when I turned 18 last June x

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    1. Aww gosh, thank you SO much for such lovely words <3

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  30. I like your long hair too! I'm trying to grow my hair out!

    -liv
    http://chocolivlovelaugh.blogspot.kr/

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    1. I'm making it my mission too! xo

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  31. This is such an inspiring post :) I think it's natural for everyone to change as they grow up. And like you said, change can definitely be a positive thing :) x

    http://lovetelina.blogspot.com

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  32. Thankyou for posting this so much Jennie, it is such an inspirational and true post that speaks to probably just about everyone :) I had the exact same thing with youtube-everyone seemed so bright and bold I couldn't hep but feel a little in the shadows!! I think even if change isn't positive we chould try to make it the best it can be.

    www.ngofficial.blogspot.co.uk

    <3

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    1. I think all we can do is make the best of everything <3

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  33. Thank you so much for this post. I can completely identify myself with it.
    I'm about to leave school, spend a year in London as an au pair and I don't know what comes after that. I'm isecure about studying English and Literature, I'm afraid of growing up but at the same time I can't wait to be free.
    I've started my blog all over again a thousand times and I still haven't figured out what I want to blog about it but I think I'm making progress.
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.

    xx Jenni

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  34. You can't please everyone, there will always be someone out there who will not be happy with who you are.

    I'd love to do more personal posts however there are far to many people that know about my blog in real life, not sure how they found out about my blog which is a bummer. Contemplating setting up an anon blog and post them that way

    Halima

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  35. I'm in year 10 and this is the most common insult at the moment, but I agree with you! We're growing up and we're changing and it should be welcomed. I actually love more personal posts because i'm so nosy! Aha. :D x
    http://hollieappleby.blogspot.co.uk/

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  36. Great post, Jennie. I guess everyone changes in three years but when you're documenting aspects of your life online of course your style and blog are going to change. I find change and the thought of it quite terrifying! x

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    1. It can be scary, but also exciting! <3

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  37. Well what world would we live in if we wouldnt change? I think you made great progress - you looked gorgeous and you still do, in a very different way though! Of course you're different, but I'm sure you changed to a better, wiser, more mature version of your 19-year-old self and I think you should proud of the way life changed you!

    Maria

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  38. Ever since I discovered your blog it's been one of my absolute favourites & I love all of your posts!! I've probably said it before but you seem so lovely & genuine, keep up the good work :) xxx

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  39. Beautiful post Jennie. I love your thoughts and the way you write your blog. There is enough of everything and you do it sooooo well. I admire you and even though I don't personally know you I find your words more relatable than some of my friends. I'm one of those people who are very scared of the change but the truth is I actally enjoy growing as a person, even if that means some people won't like me anymore :)x

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    1. It's a lovely feeling to see how far you've come <3

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  40. Wow Jennie this was so heartfelt and beautiful. I feel like how you started blogging is how I started blogging, but we kind of began writing about opposite things! My blog originally was a more personal lifestyle blog because I needed an outlet for my life, a life I felt was really empty. You started with beauty and now are into lifestyle posts. I totally understand your change, and I totally understand how I/my blog has changed too. Change isnt a bad thing at all - it shows you're constantly becoming more and learning more.

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    1. I completely agree, it's always nice to try new things! <3

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  41. Inspired! Great post!

    www.goodbadandfab.com
    personal style and fashion musings of a LA fashion lawyer living life in the fab lane!

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  42. I love this post, it's so beautifully written! It's good to change, imagine how boring life might be if we just stayed the same. Good luck with your photography business, hope it goes really well :) xxx

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    1. Exactly! Thank you lovely! xo

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  43. I like change, and I always believe it's for the better. Change allows you to grow up, mature and helps to find what its you like and want from life. I find it hard to understand why people find it hard to except change! xo

    Hannah xo | Glitter And Sparkle

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  44. Such a sweet post. Good luck setting up your business, that is so exciting! I'm sure it will be a success xx

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  45. Lovely post to read, it's really hard when there are so many amazing bloggers out there! We all feel the same but change is good and your blog is ace x

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  46. great post...yes change isnt bad...I need to start seeing that everytime someone says that to me. Surely we can't all stay the same forever right?

    http://thelittlebigobsession.blogspot.co.uk

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  47. this post is so articulate and beautifully written subscribing now!

    http://blueeyedb.blogspot.co.uk/

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  48. Such a wonderful post. And your hair looks just gorgeous :)

    www.ciderwithrosiebee.blogspot.com

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  49. I really liked this post. I like your blog *because* of the variety of posts that you do, a little bit of beauty, lifestyle etc. :) and the bunny, of course. :)

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  50. This is such an inspirational post, probably wasn't my best decision to read it whilst feeling emotional but your words have really sunk in and struck a chord with me :')

    Hannah x
    Squidoodles & Oodles

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  51. What a wonderful post Jennie! x

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