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Sunday, 10 August 2014

simplify.


"Never feel like you have to simplify yourself for anything or anyone"

That is undoubtedly one of the best pieces of advice I have ever been given, despite not appreciating what it meant at the time; the concept of not being oneself all the time just didn't make any sense. And then before I knew it I was a teenager, spending more time than I'd like to admit to, pretending to be someone I wasn't in order to fit in. One day I was reminded of that piece of advice, I instantly understood what it meant, I realised I hadn't taken it and only then could I truly recognise its value.

Never feel like you have to simplify yourself. Not to become popular. Not to fit in. Not for anything. You are worth so much more than that. Your thoughts, your opinions, your ideas are important. They're important because they're yours, you are important & you are a complex, unique and beautiful person.

Never feel like you have to like, read, buy, talk about or listen to particular things. Always do things because they make you happy. Because they make you feel good. Because you think they might teach you something new about yourself. Because you want to.

There are millions of little things that go into making you who you are.
You are not easily definable. It's okay to keep some things just for yourself.
Your happiness is important. You are worthy.
Trust yourself, always.

48 comments:

  1. Aww! Your insightful posts always make me tear up! Everything you say is true though. It just makes me sad to know that there are people out there who don't believe their individuality is worth anything... Hopefully some of them will be inspired by your beautiful words though!
    Beth x
    swallowsandskylines.blogspot.co.uk

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  2. I definitely learnt this with age. I hope this post inspires at least one sweet young thang!

    Tara x

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  3. I loved this post Jennie! I spent my school years trying to 'fit in' and lost so many years that I could have spent just being myself. xx

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  4. Such an important sentiment to remember. It's so easy to feel like you have to follow the norm to 'fit in'....I'm trying to learn (and remember) that I'm enough as I am.

    - Lorna at Scared Toast x

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  5. This made me tear up as well because it is so true and because I realized I still have to work on not trying to fit in and be loved by everyone. So thank you for this great post, I'm going to print it out and have a look at it whenever I need a reminder.

    :)

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    1. As long as you're being you, you're doing wonderfully! Xoxo

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  6. Another beautiful post, Jennie! I'm so glad I never really went through that phase of trying to "fit in" - my Mum must have done a pretty good job of hammering home that the way we are is enough. Glad to hear you've finally been able to appreciate the words of advice :) Being a teenager is all about ignoring good advice, though! :D

    Jess xo

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    1. I truly think that everyone will have a moment of feeling similar at least once in their lifetime, whether it's having a sales job that requires more extraversion than one has naturally, going to university for the first time in a new city, or even online in the blogging community, wondering if others will like ones writing and want to be friends. 

      The desire to be part of something bigger than oneself is very natural and however fleeting it may be, wondering if you'll find those people that understand you and appreciate you for who you are can feel a little scary. Because it doesn't always happen. School can be a lonely place. Work can be a lonely place. The blogosphere can be a lonely place. But it always gets better through being true to who you are :)

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  7. great advice :) x

    http://munchmecat.blogspot.ch

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  8. I know I've said it before, but you are such a wonderful writer, Jennie. I always love reading your posts - no matter how little, I always go away thinking about the message they tell afterwards.

    "You are not easily definable. It's okay to keep some things just for yourself."

    I almost teared up reading this - forget being a teenager, I'm 25 and I still have to remind myself it's okay to be me sometimes!

    x

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  9. I wish I'd known this when I was younger! I was never really part of the crowd but now I know that's totally ok x

    Josie’s Journal

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  10. Absolutely loved reading this, Jennie. The perfect sleepy Sunday read. It's easy to think and pretend you have to be a certain way but you should never lessen yourself or try to be something else. I certainly needed to read this ahead of a busy week. <3

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  11. I've never really tried to fit in although I can relate to feeling like wanting to on more than one occasion. Due to this I feel like I've always just been left out, not purposefully mind as I have some lovely friends but just because I feel a bit different, like I can't be myself completely. I still feel as though I'm on the outside looking in.

    Amy x | A Little Boat Sailing

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    1. Always be yourself, you're the only you there is! xo

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  12. Such a lovely post - really needed to remind myself, you don't need to be anyone else but yourself <3 x

    Sarah @ sarahlouxo.com xx

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  13. Such a wonderful post and sentiment! I have never really fitted in, especially at school. I used to love unicorns and Disney and I usually sat by myself because they all thought I was weird. Well, now everyone's walking around with unicorn totes so who's laughing? :)

    hellomissjordan.blogspot.co.uk xx

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    1. Haha you were on the good stuff before it was 'in'! x

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  14. I really enjoyed reading this post Jennie.. I definitely went through that phase in my younger years and really regret it looking back! That advice is still relevant now, as it's so easy to compare yourself to others!

    - Grace's Beauty Space xx

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  15. This is so true! I spent time when I was younger changing myself to fit in with other people. Now I realise that it was a stupid mistake. Be yourself and love who you are. :)

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  16. I have to admit I've been through a phase where I try to 'fit in'
    and be popular in highschool when I was younger. Eventually
    I became more 'happy' with myself and my not so mainstream
    likings. And that's ok! Be yourself and be happy ^__^ Xx

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  17. This is such an inspirational post and what a fantastic piece of advice! I went through many years as a teenager trying to be something that I wasn't and I wish some one had given me this advice then!

    Etta
    x

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  18. Oh this is so true, and even to an extent I know I still do it. I suppose I sometimes just feel like it's easier to fit in and suppress some aspects of my personality to appease others. I really shouldn't though, I'm trying to be more "me".

    Sarah xo @ PolkaDotLemon

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  19. I love this quote Jennie and think this post is so positive and inspiring. My school life was lead by always trying to fit into crowds that never excepted the real me. After overcoming many dramas in my personal life I will never do that again. xxx

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  20. I've always been told you should never apologise for liking the things you like, or doing the things you like doing. It's great advice. Such a lovely post Jennie!

    Holly / holly in your pocket

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  21. This is beautiful Jennie, and definitely something I could have done with reading as a teenager xx

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  22. I got fed up of trying to change who I was so that I fitted in. What's the point?! I decided that there was nothing worth changing who I was for, and embraced the things I love in life, which make me who I am.

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  23. Amen to this! What a beautiful blog post!

    Stephanie
    http://missstephanieusher.blogspot.co.uk/
    http://www.bloglovin.com/blog/3436251
    xxxx

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