He was 'different'. Not to those who loved him, to us he was exactly the same as everyone else. But to others, who for reasons I can't even begin to understand, it was something to poke fun at, to laugh at, to mock, day in and day out for what felt like an eternity. As confident and outgoing as he was on the outside, on the inside he was frightened, his heart was broken and one day everything became too much. There's no blame anywhere, there's no anger, there's nothing. Just sadness. That smile is gone. The kindness he should have shared with so many more people is gone. His light is no longer shining here. It was turned off in the cruelest of ways and as each day passes & the days turn into years it feels a little less raw but it never really gets any easier. There's an extra star in the sky, one that shouldn't be there quite yet, but now shines brightly each night. Sweet dreams sweetheart.
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Please don't ever let anyone tell you it's not okay to be different. It's important to be yourself because in life all you really need to do is be the best possible version of yourself. Do what makes you happy. Smile everyday. Take every opportunity that comes your way. Make the most of every single day because we're not here forever. It's a short time so you have to make it a good time! There will always be people, who for whatever reason, don't like you & you don't like them. And that's okay too. By our very nature it's impossible to get on with everyone all of the time. Please don't single anyone out. Please don't laugh at anyone. We're all guilty of walking down the street and thinking 'ooh that person's hat looks terrible', but why not instead focus on something positive about that person? Maybe they're wearing a pretty dress or their lipstick really suits them. Positivity and kindness and love is something that isn't celebrated enough sometimes. If you're going through a hard time right now, please believe me when I say that it will get better. There's always someone, somewhere there to listen if you need it, please remember that. Life is precious.
Make the most of it.
And be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be. Always.
i love you.
xoxo
What a great post Jennie, so beautiful :) I absolutely agree with you, life is about being the best that we can be. And if you're being you, then don't ever change.
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DeleteSuch strong and powerful words. You are so very right, things will get better ♥ xxx
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DeleteCrikey, your way with words gets me every time. It sounds like you've lost someone close to you, so condolences for your loss and may he rest in peace. It sounds like the world could do with more people like him rather than less of them. God bless x
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DeleteYour story sounds so similar to a story of my own. A story of my best friend, who left this World far too soon. He was 22 when we lost him...nearly five years ago now, and although it's not as hard to accept that he's not here anymore now, I miss him and think about him every day.
ReplyDeleteThis person you speak of just made me think of my best friend as soon as I started reading it. He seemed to touch so many lives, because at his funeral we couldn't fit everybody in the room. They switched screens on outside for people to see what was going on inside.
Even though I would prefer he was still with us, I feel so privileged that I could have this person in my life for the time I did, even if it was shorted than expected xxx
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DeleteThis is both really wonderful and terribly sad at the same time. But thank you for saying it. We all need to hear this again and again sometimes. x
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DeleteIt's a very touching post. And very true. It does get better. It's not always obvious, but things do work out in the end. Bullying is a horrible, horrible thing x
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DeleteThank you so much for posting this today. You've beautifully expressed such a positive and thought-provoking message, and it was just what I needed to hear today. <3
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DeleteI am so sorry for your loss. He sounds like someone I would liked to have known.
ReplyDeleteMy 17yo daughter is bullied and most recently it escalated to such terror for her, that we involved the police. I don't understand it - like your beautiful friend, she is kind, funny, sociable and beautiful. She is different because of this, walking to the beat of her own drummer. She stands up for the underdog and what is right.
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DeleteThat was absolutely beautiful Jennie!!! xx
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DeleteThis made me cry :( What an utterly moving and beautiful post. I hope that wherever this person is he is at peace. xx
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DeleteThis is beautiful, brought a tear to my eye x
ReplyDeleteWell said lovely, a little bit of 'positive' goes a long way xx
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DeleteJennie that was beautifully written. It is OK to be different, that is what makes us unique and the amazing collection of human beings that we are. We should celebrate it more. Some people aren't with us for as long as they should be but for the time they are here their light shines twice as bright. Thinking of you x (p.s. thank you so much for the lovely comment on my post about my Mum and loss).
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DeleteWhat a beautifully written, heartbreaking post... I'm guessing this person was a friend. I'm so sorry for your loss
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DeleteI actually teared up a bit reading this post. I'm so sorry to hear that you lost someone who sounds so wonderful, and what you say about focussing on positive aspects of people is a very good point. I'd be lying if I said that I always did that - if you're in a bad mood it's all too easy to do the opposite, even though it's not really about that person at all. But reading this has made me really want to change that.
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DeleteThis is so beautifully written,I have no other words that I feel will do.
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DeleteOh gosh, I really needed to read something like this at this exact moment Jennie - I've been feeling a little down and your blog always brings a smile to my face as you are always so positive and try to find the best in everything, which is why I came on today but this was just exactly what I needed. Made me cry a little but its really lifted me and reminded me that it's OK to be 'not like everyone else' and that I need to grab opportunities a little more.
ReplyDeleteI realise this sounds like a really weird rant, but I can't quite explain how perfect it is that I came on to your blog to make myself smile and found this.
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DeleteThis is so beautiful and. Perfect words. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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DeleteSuch a powerful post.. I am so sorry for your loss. You're so right, we need to focus on the positive in life and persevere the bad times. It's okay to be different, we need to all realize that. So powerful.
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DeleteThis is so beautiful hun, and I'm so sorry <3 All my love x Lea x
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